I am Cathryn Kerwin-Rawlinson of Made up by Cathryn and I have been a bridal MUA in the North Wales and Cheshire area now for over 16 years and it is safe to say in that time I have come across many bridesmaids in my time and I have met some absolute gems and I have also seen some not so great as well....
Picking Your Bride Tribe and choosing the Right People for Your Big Day
When it comes to planning your wedding, one of the most important decisions you'll make is selecting your bride tribe—the group of friends and loved ones who will stand by your side on your big day. While it might be tempting to include everyone close to you, it's essential to be thoughtful and selective in your choices. The right bridesmaids can enhance your wedding experience, while the wrong ones can cause unnecessary stress. Here's a guide to help you pick the perfect team.
What to Look for in a Bridesmaid
Supportive and Enthusiastic: Your bridesmaids should be just as excited about your big day as you are. Look for friends who will be genuinely happy for you, who will celebrate your milestones, and who will be eager to help with wedding tasks. A supportive bridesmaid will be by your side, ensuring that everything goes smoothly and that you feel loved and supported.
Organised and Reliable: Wedding planning can be overwhelming, so having bridesmaids who are organised and reliable is crucial. These are the friends who will help you stay on track with planning, coordinate events like the hen party, and ensure that everyone knows their role on the wedding day.
Positive and Uplifting: Weddings are emotional events, and you'll want bridesmaids who bring positivity and good energy to the occasion. The last thing you need is someone who constantly complains or brings negative vibes. Select friends who will lift you up, keep the mood light, and help diffuse any tension that might arise.
Fun and Sociable: While it's important for your bridesmaids to be responsible, it's equally important that they know how to have a good time. Choose people who will keep the party going, who will be the first to hit the dance floor, and who will ensure that you're enjoying every moment. Their enthusiasm will set the tone for your wedding day.
Empathetic and Considerate: Weddings can be stressful, and having bridesmaids who are empathetic and considerate of your feelings will make a world of difference. These are the friends who will check in on you, make sure you're comfortable, and go the extra mile to ensure you're happy.
What to Avoid in a Bridesmaid
Lack of Interest: Avoid selecting bridesmaids who show little to no interest in your wedding. If they're not excited or willing to participate in planning and events, they might not be the best fit. A disinterested bridesmaid can bring down the overall vibe and leave you feeling unsupported.
The expert and the comparer: Be cautious of bridesmaids who constantly talk about their own wedding or make comparisons. I recently encountered this situation, and it was quite uncomfortable as every decision the bride made was measured against their own wedding. Your wedding day should be all about you, and you should have bridesmaids who are dedicated to your joy, rather than their own previous or upcoming events. They can discuss their wedding once your special day is over.
Negative or Rude Behaviour: Some friends may have a habit of being rude or dismissive towards others. While you may be close to them, this kind of behaviour can create unnecessary drama on your big day. Choose bridesmaids who treat others with kindness and respect.
High-Maintenance Bridesmaids: Planning a wedding can be challenging enough without having to deal with unnecessary drama. It's best to avoid choosing bridesmaids who are overly demanding or constantly seek attention. Their behaviour can take away from the joy of the occasion and create unnecessary stress. I remember a wedding I was a part of years ago, where one bridesmaid had sunburn, her skin proceeded to peel, then had a spray tan over the peeling skin. When I couldn't fix the issue, she had a meltdown in the bathroom.
The Importance of Choosing Wisely
Selecting your bridesmaids is like assembling a dream team for your special day. Make sure to pick the outstanding women in your life - those who are supportive, well-organized, enjoyable, and thoughtful. With this perfect group by your side, your wedding day will be a remarkable celebration filled with love, joy, and positive vibes! So, choose wisely as you begin this wedding adventure!
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